I finally figured it out, and there's good news, and bad news if you are running Hosa cables with the original thumbscrews in the DB-25 connectors:
Newark Element 14 has the exact replacement screw locks (the female part). Their SKU # is 16M3374. This is 12.77mm long, with a 2.6mm female thread, and a 4-40 US male thread. They are $0.73 each, so you can buy as many as you need. They will bag you $5.00 for shipping, so it is tough to justify one at a time. They do not include the 4-40 split lockwasher, but you can reuse your old ones, or try a hardware store or hobby shop.
You are correct that the connectors won't quite bottom as tightly as you would like. I removed the lockwasher, and you can gain about .6mm, so it is better. However, unless you use a drop of Loctite ThreadLocker on them, it's tough to remove the connector from the screw locks w/o the lockwashers. They tend to spin out unless the screw locks are really tight. Plus, you run the chance of scratching up the paint on the plates (unless you don't care). According to my testing, the screw locks should not extend beyond the flush face of the card connector. They are just enough too long to work well. The other choice is to use a 4-40 flatwasher instead of the split washer. That should gain .4 to .5mm.
Oh, yeah- the bad news: I could not locate anyone who manufactures the jack post in 2.6mm. Bummer. Hosa does not offer them separately, and in fact do not have a Parts Department. When they need them to solve a customer's problem, they rob them from returned merchandise. The only thing I can think of doing, is buy some closeout cables as cheap as possible and remove the screws. They end up costing about $4.00 each if you buy the DBD models you get (4) at a time.
This only matters if you have lots of Hosa cables with the standard 2.6mm posts. If you are only concerned about your use, it would be far easier to replace both pieces on your I/O cards and your snakes. Pro Audio houses only use 4-40 hardware, so they would recommend replacing all. Make sure the screw locks do not extend beyond the face of the card connector. They can kit something up. Try:
http://www.proaudiola.com